I have no problem going to the movies or dining alone. Most of my girlfriends totally object to going out by themselves. I wonder what people do think when they see an attractive lady all by herself eating a meal, having a glass of wine or watching a movie. I feel secure enough with myself to say, hey I don't have to be out with a man. I can go enjoy myself without the company of others. Let's face it, often the dates we do have are so boring or consuming that I'd rather be alone. If I do go out and I know men will be around, if I don't want to be bothered, I'll wear my engagement ring from my ex. The ring is my sign that I don't want to be talked to , I'm not available for any one's company tonight. I like to sometimes unwind with a glass of wine and quietness. Getting a date is extremely easy, getting a date you enjoy not so. Maybe I have grown accustom to being single as in my marriage, I was the only participant. I did not have that special one to kiss goodnight, to cuddle with, to be intimate with. I had two dogs and 3 teenagers. The love flows from all of them. The husband was like a cold dead fish. Maybe I have put up barriers because of the pain from HIM. Are all men withdrawn, distracted, and aloof? I didn't believe HIM was until after we were married. It was like cutting off a light switch, we said I do , he practiced I don't . I am not willing to settle to have a marriage, if I can't have it all, I don't want any part of it. One thing I learned from HIM is I am too big, I am too powerful, I am too loving. To HIM, your right, I am all these things, you had me believe these characteristics were a bad thing, the past 2 years I have learned these qualities make for an incredible person. So to all you women out there, I say don't settle, believe in yourself, you can do anything you set you mind to.
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