Cougar or Babysitter?

Do you ever wonder why our bodies do what they do?  I mean come on, I'm 45, single and it seems my sex drive has escalated immensely.  I feel like I have raging hormomes of a 18 year old boy.  I think about sex night and day, day and night.  Its the most bizarre way to describe daily life.  I hear men say all the time that their wives never want to have sex, and all I can say to that is your doing something wrong because trust me, women WANT sex and often.  Maybe you men need to try more foreplay or better kissing as we really want to have this intimacy in our lives.  Being single is especially hard because you don't want to be promiscious however, you want that stimulation from someone rather than your rabbit.  I often find myself sitting across from a date thinking lets get dinner over with so we can get down to what I really want, however, my southern upbringing prevents me from doing so.   These thoughts start way before the date happens. I actually find myself looking at a guys mannerism and imagine what sex with him would be like,  often this ends in me not giving out my phone number.  Guys, just know when us successful single girls in our 40's are out with you,  we are not thinking about what you drive, what your wearing, or how strong you are.  We are thinking,  "can he give me multiple orgasms"?   I also want so badly sometimes to behave like a man,  get my needs met and never answer his calls again.   I then think, oh that would be so ugly.  Guys can do it, why can't us girls?   If I just had the courage to actually go out with the hot 26 year old that calls me regularly,  I wonder if he could actually handle a girl in her 40's.   Could I become a cougar or would it be more like babysitting?